Two things I bet you can’t do at one time

Walk and chew bubblegum!  Oh, you’ve got that one?  Great!  (Just don’t leave your gum on the sidewalk when you’re done.)

Pat your head and rub your tummy! Good with that one, too?  Wow, we’re getting somewhere.

How about saying “Thank you, God” for your job while griping about your boss?  What? A little harder?  Any takers? Anybody?

I think you get the picture.  Thankfulness is an antidote to numerous negative thoughts and emotions: anger, loneliness, depression, jealousy, selfishness, and other ills as well.  It’s cheaper than therapy, and in fact may be used by therapists at times (I think they call it “reframing”).  The kicker is, you’ve got to do it.  It’s not automatic. You have to hit the brakes on the negative thoughts and reign your mind in to start thinking of what’s positive in your life.  Not simple or always easy — and it goes beyond just the “power of positive thinking”– but virtually anyone can do it.

Lifestyle of looking up, leaning in

Our pastor preached a message a  little while back on the “attitude of gratitude”.  Isn’t it amazing how those words already rhyme so we’ll remember them?  It can sound almost trite to repeat, but the phonetics help keep the concept handy in a sort of survival kit for our spirits.  Like the list of wrongs you can right with apple cider vinegar, the things you’re unable to keep in your heart when an attitude of gratitude is cultivated continues to grow the more you think about it.

Consider these:

  •  list three things you’re thankful for about your wife (don’t leave out seemingly mundane things like finding clean socks in your drawer and knowing there will be toothpaste in the cabinet when you need it). Now, hold those thoughts and picture yourself yelling at her for burning the toast.  Feels kind of icky, doesn’t it?
  • as your eyes water at the sight of a fellow church member’s new ride, start thinking of all the times your just-about-to-be-qualified-as-a-classic has been there for you when you needed a way to go, and tell God “thank you” for allowing you to have what you have and tell him “thank you” for blessing your brother. I promise your eyes will clear up and there will be more peace in your heart.  And you may even have the urge to shine up that old car!
  • as a single mom, you find yourself drifting dangerously into the realm  of  “how can I raise these kids alone with that so-called husband out of the picture and supporting us to the negative degrees of 10 (as in not any) — I’ve got to find somebody.”  Start to list things that God has done for you since you’ve had those kids — times he’s sent a neighbor by to offer help, or that rebate check from an over-payment on a doctor bill that came unexpectedly, but just in time, or when a trusted adult at church took up time with your son to show him how young men were supposed to conduct themselves.  Feel like you can hold on a little longer, until God brings who He has in mind, if that’s His plan?  I thought so.  Works every time.

Not just for “churchy” folks

In my years of working in the mental health field I’ve observed the efficiency of teaching someone, even with intellectual disabilities, a positive behavior to replace a negative one, and then reinforcing the positive one more often, so the negative one would eventually go away.  The trick was selecting a behavior that simply couldn’t be done while the negative one was in progress. It is an “incompatible behavior” — for example, you can’t be late and on time at the same time, or use your hands for manipulating a puzzle while using them for some behavior that has unwanted social or even health consequences.

Put simply, being thankful is an incompatible behavior with most negative thoughts.

Where’s that in the Bible?

Yep, it’s in there.  In fact, it’s the attitude God commands for our approaching Him: “Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise, be thankful unto him, and bless his name.” (Psalm 100:4). This is one of many places where thanksgiving is not only encouraged, but commanded.

Think of how you feel when you hand your kid a gift you worked hard to provide, and have them either trash it or heedlessly turn around and ask for something else.  We’re made in God’s image, so amplify our feelings exponentially and the God “in whose hand thy breath is” (Daniel 5:23) feels much more the same way. And above all, this kind of thankfulness does much more than just make you feel better.  Drawing near to God, who made us and everything there is, is the answer for weathering, and calming, the storm.

What all can’t you do while being thankful?

It’s hard to complain about the rain while being thankful a farmer somewhere was able to grow the wheat that made that wonderful sandwich you’re savoring. It’s even hard to complain about what you had to pay the doctor, and the surgery clinic, and the pharmacy,  while being thankful it was just the tonsils you’re having to contend with (if you need a dose of thankfulness there, research a specialty children’s hospital, and read the stories of children they treat).

As our pastor mentioned once, a certain POW in a Vietnam prison camp found it difficult to complain about the pain he suffered from the inhumanity being practiced against him, when he realized that his feeling pain meant he was still alive and able to fight back within his spirit: he had not given up as he’d seen others do.  Corrie ten Boom’s sister challenged her to thank God for the fleas in their concentration camp barracks, as recorded by Corrie in The Hiding Place.  Though Corrie resisted the idea, she forced herself to say, Thank you for the fleas,” only to realize days later that their clandestine Bible studies had not been disturbed by guards in this barracks as in others.  Why?  You guessed it:  the fleas! The guards wouldn’t even come near them because the fleas were so bad.

The bottom line?

No one thing is going to answer everyone’s problem, and many are the folks who suffer worse things than I can imagine.  But though none is free to choose their circumstances, all are free to choose their response.  In so doing, we may be also securing the insight and response of Almighty God, who resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.

What about you? Have you found an “attitude of gratitude” to be a source of strength in your life? Are you otherwise good at doing two things at one time? I’d love to hear your story.  Please leave a comment, if you’d like to share.

6 thoughts on “Two things I bet you can’t do at one time”

  1. Hi Susan,
    I just discovered your blog through Janice Hardy’s critique group. I was pleasantly surprised to find the very first entry is on thanking God!!

    I work in a dental office. If there’s one thing a dental office needs, it’s patients. Recently, we hit a slow period during which people just didn’t show up. Either everyone was sick or they were irresponsible and didn’t show. But in God’s providence, that happened to coincide with learning that we needed to update our privacy policies. After a week of mostly paperwork, we got it all sorted out. And the next week, He sent us patients.

    How does that tie into the attitude of gratitude? It’s not easy to thank God for apparently shortchanging your income! But hey, all things work together…

    I also loved that you used the example from “The Hiding Place”. That’s one of my favorite go-tos to kickstart a grateful attitude. I can’t remember the reference of the verse Corrie’s sister quotes to her, but I remember the gist of it, and I ask God to remind me of it.

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    1. Thanks for the comment, Rachel, and your experience there seems so true to how things can go, doesn’t it? if we keep the right perspective and use what God in his wisdom gives, instead of the thing we thought we needed (like the times we’ve snarled over being stuck behind a slow driver, only to come upon a an accident scene that could have been our own, had we been there a bit earlier!)

      Without the book in front of me, I can’t be sure, but I’m guessing the reference in The Hiding Place was this one:

      1 Thessalonians 5:18-19 (KJV)
      In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

      I know it’s one I’ve had to work at a number of times.

      I appreciate your taking the time to comment, and look forward to more interaction in the critique group.

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      1. It’s almost like He has Divine foresight or something…

        That’s it! Now I’m doubly ashamed; I put that as our office Facebook status the other week.

        Ah, thank you for a lovely post that reinforces what He’s been showing me over the month! I’m getting quite excited over the crit group, too!

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  2. Hi! I found you through the critique group, too.

    I’m grateful for that, and for the nice – and useful – conversation I just had with my son on, of all things, weightlifting.

    I wish I could get over having the negative thought FIRST, and just be a nice person, but I’m grateful I automatically self-correct, and TRY to think the right thing. IOW, I notice when I’m not being nice – and tell myself to cut it out. Most of the time.

    Nice post. Thanks.

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    1. Thank you for the comment, Alicia. I certainly have to get help from above to remember to be thankful first! The post was as much for me as anyone else, I guess, and I still don’t always get it right. Glad you enjoyed the post.

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